I am AuKeeRa Rayne, Clairvoyant Medium

Many people suffer depression and or anxiety caused by different situations bringing them to feel there is no hope when there is. When this happens to you, you MUST be proactive on your own care. I personally understand how there feels to have no where to turn. I need you to hold on, understand there are solutions, call your family doctor, seek psychiatric care and I get it, you are private and you'd prefer no one to know, no one has to know. Make sure you when you reach out for help, you navigate your narrative to allow your professional to aid you. It is great to have a psychiatrist on your side then follow up with a psychologist and/or counseling, keep your family doctor in the loop.

Find a way to add in the coping skills you need to weather this storm (and storms on the horizon) rather than trying to bury your feelings, just get over it,  let it go or 'fix' you. Sometimes we aren't happy, we just aren't.

Yes, sometimes medication is needed for a short time to aid us over the  humps.  If you are feeling hopeless, scared, lost and/or sad, find a friend and go for coffee talk about things that make you laugh perhaps. Journal out how you feel, write, not with an agenda of what needs to be written, deciding how it needs to be written down or deciding it's not worth writing, just scribble it out, by hand, all of it, then burn it or keep it, but don't go back and reread it. Think of your journal like a garbage can for the things you just need to get out of your head.  

Give yourself permission to treat yourself as you would a good friend. Most of all learn how to cope by taking some classes, (ask your doctor for mental health free class availability) perhaps you may need some in patient time to attend anger management and coping classes in a safe place. Our society is very much lacking the skills needed to cope with daily life, so seek out these solutions. Not where you are told to fix you, that you need to 'work on you', 'evolve' or other things that will only bring more of a feeling of desperation and helplessness, find that which allows you to feel safe so you can rest, knowing your goal is to get up stronger when you are ready. 

The idea is to realize we can have more than one train of thought to counter balance the heaviness or fear we are feeling.

Every day can be a bad day and every day can be a good day, we need to  give ourselves permission to feel down or sad and know it is okay and it will pass, sometimes we are just sad (I use the term melancholy) and sometimes we are sad for long  times, especially when we are grieving a loss of a loved one, a change in our own health, end of a relationship or profession, it's sometime hard to realize these changes do not mean our life is over. 

We need to be aware it is simple action of also noticing the happy too. 

With the loved one you lost, smile while you cry and remember their life. Your mourning is valuable, you are allowed to remember their life as you heavily grieve their loss. 

With grieving change, you will find you need to find comfort in simple things to allow you to feel as if you are floating on water rather than drowning in it.  Enacting the senses are a wonderful and simple way to bring a counter balance and add in another thing to focus on while we carry our anxiety about the future and our sadness of loss. Make your list of ten things that you can quickly refer too, favorite color to see, favorite smell, favorite meal to cook, favorite song (one sad, one power song and maybe one that makes you smile), favorite movie (one to make you laugh, one to make you cry), favorite Pjs, favorite place outdoors to sit and enjoy nature. Things like that.  Sometimes the act of driving to pick up a cup of tea or coffee, then driving out of the city is enough to support ourselves and aid our coping. Sometimes simply getting up, changing into other pjs and moving rooms, then watching a movie, is the perfect support. One thing though we both know that isn't supportive is cruising social media or staying on line. Our brains are already so full. Give yourself permission to put the phone/device down from things that are increasing your stress, anxiety, grief or depression.

You are not  broken, you are always doing your best, and you are enough, be proud, see yourself, and your life, as enough.

You hold the  answers and it is worth taking the time to work with you. 

You can cope with daily sadness, anxiety and pain, without always feeling that you are suffering in silence, feeling like you are always complaining or feeling hopeless and alone, and possibly  contemplating suicide. 

We all can be victimized in life, although we are not victims in our lives. 

Always reach out to others, ask for  help, 

Be a friend to you, help you help yourself.

You are worth it.